So y’all know how everything is a game, right? (As Mr. Bob likes to say.) Well, this is especially true with relationships, particularly in our lovely modern society that has all its priorities straight. You have to play your cards right, and honesty, genuineness, and transparency are completely optional. If anything, they should be avoided, at least in the initial stages.
To begin, you can’t simply say how you feel in the first stages of attraction. You can’t be straightforward with your crush, even if the interest is reciprocated. That would be relationship suicide before the real fun has even begun. Transparency of feelings is not socially acceptable for crushes. Instead, playing games is your best bet. Leave them guessing, unsure of the meaning of certain gestures or comments. Being flirtatious is key. Keep in mind, though, you can’t really win these games. You’re not supposed to, clearly. Because either way you’re going to be up all night thinking about whether or not they like you and you’re not going to be certain of anything. There should be no definition to relationships in the crush stage; it’s not socially acceptable to do so, until the relationship moves into the next stage. And even then, the games continue. To reiterate, games are far more important to a successful relationship than transparency or genuineness. This is how it is meant to be because this is how it works in our society. And our society is excellent at setting realistic standards and honest expectations.
Moving on. In serious relationships, because high school relationships are incredibly serious, open communication should be avoided at all costs. If something is wrong, you’re not allowed to talk openly about whatever the issue is. The best way to resolve conflicts is through passive aggressive comments and guessing games. Your significant other of two months should obviously know you well enough to know all the things that upset you and to figure out what ever grievance they’ve committed this time. And if they can’t figure it out, that’s their problem. But you’re allowed to be mad at them for it, of course. That’s just the logical response.
Good relationships are built on games, not on transparency, and especially not on honesty. It is much harder to be honest and authentic than it is to be deceptive and silver-tongued. (By the way, this power combination of deception, silver-tongued expertise, and dishonesty is known as charming. It is a key trait to look for in a significant other and falling victim to it is how successful relationships operate.) So it is best for a relationship if you skip that hard work of truthfulness and responsibility and simply take the easy way: deception and superficial conversations. Not having any extensive conversations about conflict is societally ideal, as aforementioned in the communication discussion. In addition, a lack of honesty gives you an easy out for pretty much any part of the relationship; this includes excuses, skirting questions, and flat-out lies in certain cases. Don’t mind the consequences that you might incur from that dishonesty. Honesty is much more detrimental to a relationship than is deception or the like, everyone knows that.
Our lovely, judicious society has established wonderful expectations for achieving successful relationships. Simple notes to keep in mind: games over commitment, superficiality over transparency, and charming deception over honesty.